Getting a man to commit to a serious relationship is a tricky subject. There are a ton of signs that he wants a relationship but you can’t really put all of your eggs into one basket and bet on it. Depending on the type of man you’re with, he may or may not be totally ready to fully commit to you.
Here are 10 signs he wants a serious relationship (read carefully and don’t over analyze, take the advice for what it is).
1. You’ve Met His Family
Regardless of how the two of you met, guys don’t beat around the bush when they like a girl. If he’s comfortable with his family and really likes you, he’ll bring you home to meet mom and dad. We like to look at women as something we’re proud of and not something we’re just trying to conquer. If you’ve met his family then this is a really good sign that he’s ready for a serious relationship.
2. Booty Calls Are No More
Believe it or not but before the two of you started dating, he had his own life full of friends and drunken nights. And yes, some of those drunken nights included one night stands. He could have been a player that all of the ladies wanted and even now that he’s in a relationship, women are still calling/texting in hopes that there’s still a little player left in him. When a man is committed he blocks all of that out. He’s committed to you and you only. So if he has gotten texts and you’ve gotten mad, at least be happy that he’s not acting on those past side pieces.
3. He Speaks In ‘We’ and Not I – A sure sign he wants a serious relationship
This is a very subtle thing guys do and they may not even realize it. But when you start to notice that he starts saying we instead of I a lot more, his mind is now subconsciously programmed to include you in his plans. It might not seem like much but this is a tell tale sign that he values you as a partner and wants to include you in his life! Be happy!
4. You Find The Toilet Seat Down
This may seem really stupid and actually quite ridiculous. But when you go to his place or vice versa and he puts the toilet seat down, he’s actually considering you! Most guys leave it up (guilty as charged) when it comes to hanging out with their friends. If your man puts the toilet seat down, he’s definitely serious about you because he respects you.
5. He Says I Love You
Guys don’t ever say I love you unless they absolutely mean it. Sure there are some times where he’s pissed off at you and only says I love you out of spite. But for the most part, when a guy says it it’s genuine. So if he’s saying I love you and better yet if he said it first, then he’s probably committed to you. If you’re looking for signs he wants a serious relationship, this one is a given.
6. You’re Invited Out With The Guys
Nothing says I’m ready for a serious relationship better than when he invites you out with the guys friends. Now don’t get me wrong, guys enjoy their personal space, but when he invites you out with the guys you’re more than just a friend. He’s mentally included you in his plans and is ready to take your relationship to the next level and a sign he wants a serious relationship
7. The First Time You Met
Have you ever caught him reminiscing about the first time the two of you met? This is a huge indicator that he’s remembering the quality times you’ve already spent together and also implies that he’s looking forward to more good times to come. While this isn’t always true for each guy, it’s still a pretty good indicator that he wants something more.
8. He’s Opened Up To You About His Past
Guys will only open up and share their past experiences with a woman they trust. They’ll never just go out and make themselves emotionally vulnerable unless they feel secure about whom their speaking with. If he’s opened up to you and has shed some light on ex-girlfriends, past relationships, or family matters – there’s a really good chance that he’s into you a lot more than a kindergarten crush.
9. He Wants to Spend Time With You
This is typically something that happens at the beginning of a serious relationship. You’ll find that he begins to instigate hanging out a lot more and will even go out of his way to make food or coffee plans with you far in advance. Any guy that wants to spend more time with you or asks for your time through text, definitely wants to take your relationship a step further from where it’s currently at. Just keep in mind that once the honeymoon phase is over, he may not be like this anymore. It doesn’t mean that he’s not into you, it just means that he still wants to have his own life from time to time.
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10. He Tells You
If you really want an obvious sign that he wants a serious relationship, just wait for him to tell you! When guys want something they’ll typically let it be known. This means that you’ll know from him personally or he’ll have told someone else who will then relay the message back to you. Hearing it from him personally is by far the best indicator that he’s ready for something more serious.
BONUS: If he asks you to move in with him or talks about it in passing, he definitely see’s you in his future. Of course this is a massive sign he wants a serious relationship
Okay I have this male friend whom I have known for the last six years about. We get along very well, make eye contact when we converse, he has stared at me twice already with only a “just thinking”-type response, he does me favours like picking me up and dropping me off when I ask need it, he helps me carry my stuff, sometimes even ask me if he can carry my stuff, we touch every now and then, he would put his hand on my back gently rubbing it or would rub my back while hugging to say goodbye. Even recently hugged in front of other people whom we both know and they know us. All this makes me think that something’s up. However a few days ago an eldery lady acquaintance made me very suspicious when she asked me, in the absence of my friend how things are going between me and him, if things are serious and to top it all whether I would settle down with him. Now I’m left to wonder what was that all about and does she perhaps know something which I don’t know yet. I like my friend very much I would not mind getting exclusive with him but at this stage I don’t quite know what to make of all of this as this was not the first time that this elderly lady have spoken to me about my friend along the exact same line as mentioned above, except for the settling down part.
Hi Christelle,
I’m afraid I have nothing to say, only that I see I’m in a situation more or less like yours. I’m just curious to know, after almost 10 months since your question, did anything really happen betweehn you and your guy friend?
Sally