10 Reasons Why Men Almost Always Come Back

The time after a break up can be very tough for you, however, it can also be tough on your ex-boyfriend. Despite partying it up and meeting new women, when the music calms, you’ll always be there in the back of his mind. He’ll wonder how you’re doing without him and rehearse the what if’s in his head over and over again. Do men always come back?

 

Not necessarily, but there are some obvious reasons and some not so obvious reasons why men will come back into your life. It may not be permanent, but men are fighters when it comes to love and are always willing to make a come back for the girl they want.

So why do men almost always come back? Here’s our top 10.

1. Sex

When a man isn’t getting his fix he becomes sexually frustrated. This is especially true if he was getting some with you on a consistent basis. Be careful though, don’t just assume that he came back because he’s not getting sex elsewhere. Sometimes it can be a comfort thing. Maybe the new girl he’s getting it on with doesn’t do the little “tricks” that you do?

‘The sad reality is that most guys aren’t getting any straight out of a relationship’

They’ve been in relationship mode too long that it’s tough to hop back in the field of play and land a GOOD hookup. With that being said, more than likely he’s just not getting any.

If they were given the option most guys will testify that “consistency” is very important; they would rather choose quantity over quality. The truth is if you gave them quality and quantity, which is a winning combination for any man,  chances are high that he will be back sooner than you think.

2. He Genuinely Misses You

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The men that love being single secretly wish they had a relationship and the men in a relationship secretly wish they were single again. As soon as the relationship ended, he was a bit sad but then realized he was single again. He could now go out with his boys, hit on girls, party and drink without having the guilt of a girlfriend weighing him down. Soon after though it all slowly fades away. He’ll start to miss you and the little things that came along with being in a relationship. This almost always happens..unless his ex-girlfriend was a complete bitch. Then he’d rather drink with his buddies.

The truth is that the “novelty” of being single will soon wear off.

Due to the fact that he hasn’t been single for very long, it may be harder than he initially thought. Last time he was single, he was more than likely younger and on top of his “game”. The reality of singledom may be completely different to what he envisioned in his head. As soon as he gets bored and frustrated with the single life, he will run back to you.

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3. Jealousy

When guys see an ex-girlfriend with another guy it really gets his blood boiling. He may not always show it on the surface but deep down he’d really like to punch that new guy in the face. This sucks the most for guys because it reinforces the reality that you two are no longer a couple. He’ll either make sure you aren’t happy with this guy or make an effort to win you back. Men always come back with one of these two things in mind or they’ll ignore it all together.

4. He’s Changed

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Men can change if they really want to. You as a woman can never change a man, but instead can open his eyes to a whole new reality that maybe he doesn’t want to face – like the reality of living without you. If he really wants to come back into your life he’ll want to show you how he’s changed. More then often he’s kicked some things out of his life that he knows you don’t like. He’s willing to show you these things up front not only for self-gratification but also because he wants the opportunity to be your man again.

When he makes those positive changes no matter how small they may be, he will immediately want to show them off to you, you and you alone. Remember that you were his “go to person”.

5. He Regrets Leaving

When a man leaves a woman he’ll sometimes regret his decision. ‘He’ll start to look back and realize that he focused all of his attention on the things he didn’t like about you instead of the things he loved‘. As soon as he realizes the qualities you brought to the table, he’ll start kicking himself in the ass and contact you as soon as possible with the hopes that you’ll take him back. Give the stupid guy another shot will ya?

Guys forget just how much they should appreciate you. It is quite normal for a guy to get irritated quickly and to start taking you for granted. After some initial exploring on his own, he will soon discover that your unique qualities and strengths that he was originally attracted to can’t be replicated that easily.

6. He’s Checking Up

What do we mean by checking up? We mean that he wants to see if you miss him as much as he misses you. He’ll send you the “hey how are you” text message as if you guys are barely meeting. He really just wants to see if the feelings are still mutual. This will bring him back around, maybe not for good but definitely long enough for you to notice that he misses you. It will drive him absolutely crazy if he thinks for one moment that you are not interested anymore. Despite how he acts or what he says, the truth is he has an ego he needs to stroke.

7. He Doesn’t Want to Start Over

Why Do Guys Always Come Back?

Going through the whole getting to know each other phase with another girl is a hassle. It can be really fun for your ex-boyfriend but eventually it becomes a “been there done that” situation. Guys would rather go back to their comfort zone (you) before starting all over again. Starting over again comes with all sorts of risks.

8. Standards

When the relationship is over a new standard is set by default. He now knows what he likes and doesn’t like. While he’s out dating new women, he’ll start to compare by default because of the standards that you set in your past relationship together. If for whatever reason he feels those standards are not being met, he’ll go back to you knowing you’re the only girl who can fulfill his needs.

He will start to get irritated with other girls. Soon their pretty exterior will “wear thin” and he will realize that they are unable to meet his needs and standard’s. There are so many different aspects when it comes to being intimate and having a relationship with someone, that the chances are extremely high that they will not meet all his standards.  The odds really are in your favour and not in the favour of any other girl.

9. Memories

Men will always remember the good times when they aren’t making new ones with another girl. This makes him want to make more memories with you at any cost. He’ll come back with a purpose to make happy memories instead of the bad ones you parted with.

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Social media is actually going to be your best friend in this situation. Many guys will not admit this, but the truth is that every time a photo of you pops up, it will drive him mad. There are memories of you all over social media and the best of all is that men are “visual creatures”. Photos especially are likely to make him sad and he will start to miss you. Everybody in his life will more than likely bring up memories of the two of you. The memories will bombard him and he will want to start over and create new memories with you.

10. His Parents

His mom or dad keeps reminding him what an idiot he was for letting you go. Any guy that has had a relationship with a girl has some kind of relationship with his parents. A mother especially knows when her son isn’t at his best and knows the reasoning behind it – a mothers intuition if you will. He’ll start to listen to his mom when she reminds him that he’d better start learning to cook, clean and sew a button if he doesn’t get her back.

‘The chances are really high that either his parents or even a good female friend will try to speak sense into him’

Regardless of the peer pressure from his mates, that will wear thin very quickly. If his mates are single, he will soon realize that they are in no position to be giving him advice. If they are single or in bad relationships he will soon stop listening to what they have to say He will start to value what the people he loves says, and the influence of his parents and family will start to make him change his mind.

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What do you think?

Are there any other reasons that men always come back? Share your thoughts below in our comments section!

 

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