Are you wondering how to make your ex boyfriend want you back? Trust me when I tell you that you are not alone, in wondering what to do and how to do it. As a male I can tell you first hand that I have seen some very scary things women have done to try and get their ex back.
Now please don’t take offense to this ladies, but I have really seen some scary ex girlfriends. I have literally seen some of my mates exes go psycho trying to win them back. The unfortunate part about this is that they actually had a chance, except they were doing all the wrong things in all the wrong ways. They ended up putting off these guys even more, and did a good job in achieving the complete opposite.
How to make your ex boyfriend want you back on your terms
The truth is that you really need to know what you are doing when it comes to trying to win your ex back. There are certain things that you should do and other things which you shouldn’t do.
As previously mentioned, I have seen it and experienced it all and I will be happy to share my knowledge and secrets with you. After all, guys talk and I have some valuable inside information for you ladies out there, who are wondering how to make your ex boyfriend want you back.
Things to never do when you are trying to win back your ex
Please ladies, do me and yourself a favor and never do the following things, for your own sake keep your dignity I can’t stress this enough. These things will not help you win your man back I can guarantee it. You will only be pushing him further away.
1.Don’t react with emotion
Obviously when your relationship ends, you will become emotional. In many cases you may be angry, hurt and even disappointed. Regardless of what you are feeling and how your relationship ended, it is going to be within your best interest to not react when you are emotional.
- Don’t try and make him jealous with other guys
I have seen this far too many times and it always has the same horrible ending. Do not try to make your ex jealous with another guy. Instead of making him jealous, you may end up just pissing him off, which will push him even further away. If he thinks you have slept with someone else, so quickly after him, he will definitely not think very highly of you.
- Don’t tell the whole world how badly he treated you
Many females go around trying to get everyone else to “gang up” on their ex. I have seen many girls who will literally tell every single person the whole story of their breakup, even if it is a random stranger. Let me tell you from a guy’s perspective that trying to get people to gang up on or turn against your ex is definitely not the way to win him back. In most cases everything that you say goes straight back to him and you will just end up looking like a nasty person.
- Don’t try to dress differently
I have seen many females who will actually go out of their way to try to impress their ex by dressing differently. Unfortunately this usually does not work as it usually ends up irritating exes as opposed to making them want you back. In many instances, females may try to dress in a “seductive” manner to try to entice their ex and show them what they are missing. The problem with this is that, it just irritates a guy to know that you are dressing in revealing clothing; it doesn’t make them want you back anymore.
Things that will help get your ex boyfriend back
Here are some things that will actually help, you should be wondering how to make your ex boyfriend want you back. I can promise you that these methods actually do work and will help you.
- Stay as sweet as you are
If you are a genuine, kind and caring person and if you want your ex to want you back then show him that you are still that person. Do not act out of character from hurt or anger. Rather remain who you are, stay true to yourself and in no time, he will realize on his own what he is missing. Remember that your good qualities are one of a kind and nobody will ever be able to replicate them.
One of the things that he loved about you was how kind and genuine you were, so the trick to never change these things about you. Show him that you are still the same good and loyal person that you once were. Apply these principles to all your dealings with him.
- Be mature and respectful
This is much easier said than done and I know how hard this can be, but it is going to be in your best interest to act in a mature manner. You need to be mature about the breakup and be respectful to him. You need to show him that you respect him as a person even if you are not together. Show him what a mature and decent human being that you and this will go a long way. In time his friends, family and even him will see what he is missing.
- Don’t contact your ex at all
Allow him to see that you can live without him; this is a psychological trick that experts claim will make him want you back. This reverse psychology actually will make him want you back. Don’t text him or call him under any circumstances and show him that you are happy without him. Once the idea sinks in that you really are not totally obsessed with him and clingy he may see things in a very different perspective and he will be running back to you in no time.
- Work on you
Nothing will make you more attractive and desirable to your ex boyfriend, than if he sees you genuinely working on making life improvements. It is a good idea to spend time with your friends, do hobbies, study and do things which genuinely make you happy. If your ex sees you happy and working on yourself, this will definitely entice him to want you back. It needs to be done in a genuine way though; you don’t want him to think you are making these changes and acting happy for his benefit. Therefore, it is best if you genuinely do it for yourself first, this trick works like a bomb.
You will need to have time and patience, as let’s face it guys can be slow. It may take your ex boyfriend some time, but give him the time and the space that he needs and in the end it will pay off. I know that it may be hard to stay away from him, but at the end of the day it is going to be within your best interest to try to remain calm and level headed about things. The truth is that the advice which I have given you above, should definitely teach you a thing or two about how to make your ex boyfriend want you back, I wish you all the best of luck.