Wow. I did not see that coming… **laughs** I can see how you’d be concerned with that. After all, when you commit to a relationship, you want his eyes on you and on you only. This is understandable.
But let’s be honest for a second.
Do you ever find yourself staring at a guy for more than 3 seconds and he doesn’t have something on his face? Of course you have you sly girlfriend you.
“But Joseph, I was single then, I’m in a committed relationship now and I would never stare at other men!”
Okay… **laughs** It’s completely okay to have celebrity crushes but it’s not okay to stare at the general public? Give me a break lol.
Understand this: It’s completely natural of you to do it! It’s like our human makeup was mathematically put together: do unto one side as you would do to the other. If it’s okay for you to sneak-a-peak every now and then, then it’s okay for your man to do the same.
Here are the top 5 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Looks At Other Women
It’s Habitual. Believe it or not but your boyfriend used to be single before he was dating you. He was checking out girls before the idea of you even popped up into head. So if you caught your boyfriend looking at another woman, understand that he was doing it before he met you and it’s pretty hard to break a cycle that you’ve become so accustomed to. It’s sort of like when you play with your hair in the mirror even though it makes no difference in the end. You do it because it’s become a habit.
It’s Science. I recently watched this documentary that explained how both men and women both give off different chemical scents when they are attracted to the opposite sex. Women give off this weird scent especially when they’re ovulating and men are naturally attracted to it whether they consciously are aware of it or not. It’s freaking science. You can’t expect to change your boyfriends – or any other man for that matter – biological makeup that is scientifically embedded into his DNA. Your complaining or uncertainty isn’t going to change thousands of years of evolution. It’s just part of his reproductive-ness-thingy-whatever. Science wins. Deal with it.
Beauty Attracts. I recently went hiking with my girlfriend and a group of friends in Yosemite National Park. When we got to the top of Nevada Falls, we all took a moment to enjoy the vast beauty of the scenery. Now get with me for a second: the beauty (the view) attracted our eyes to stare out into the distance. If it wasn’t beautiful I probably would have looked but wouldn’t have stared, but since it was so beautiful I found myself endlessly staring.
The same goes for other women. There are other beautiful women in the world. Even the most beautiful women in the world eventually become replaced by other beautiful women. You are not the only beautiful girl in the world. So if you see him staring at other beautiful women, just know that beauty attracts the eye. If it didn’t, then tons of girls would never care about celebrities and their beauty make-overs. It is what it is.
Physical Attraction. Chances are you love each other unconditionally, but just because he loves your body does not mean he doesn’t have other preferences. For example, my parents have been happily married for 12 years and my mom still makes remarks when she see’s an attractive man. Just because you like minestrone doesn’t mean you can’t like clam chowder. If you can have a preference for ice-cream, why can’t you have a preference with what you like physically?
This does not mean that he doesn’t care about you, it just means that he likes variety. For you to expect him to love you and your body forever, is like forcing him to buy one car and totally disregard every new model that comes out year-by-year. It’s impossible. The new shapes are always going to attract the eye, physical attraction is exactly the same.
He’s Reminiscing The Good Times. It’s true, after the honeymoon phase of the relationship, a man will begin to miss his old way of life. This doesn’t mean that he’s over you, it just means that he’s reminiscing the good times by looking at other women every now and then.
The way that you go through your Facebook and look at the good times you used to have with your girls is the exact same thing he’s doing when your boyfriend looks at other women. It’s just his unique way of remembering the good times (no not remembering other women for you analytical thinkers).
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As long as he’s looking at not touching you’ve got absolutely nothing to worry about. If he’s constantly doing it in front of you with girls who aren’t even attractive, then you’ve got something to worry about. At least admire the fact that he’s looking at attractive women and not ugly one’s. If you catch him looking at ugly girls, then maybe you should worry a bit.
I mean, did you honestly think guys picked up Playboy Magazines for the insightful articles, absolutely not. They want to see naked girls you know? At the end of the day you’re going to do yourself more bad than good if you constantly think about it. Try not to think about it too much and know that it’s natural for him to do so.
And if it makes you feel any better, he knows you do the exact same thing. As long as you know you care about each other, having a little eye-candy is never a bad thing. Just don’t go as far to start making guys your wallpapers or secretly hiding pics in your smartphone’s camera roll.
All in all his looking is normal and your jealously is equally normal. You guys will be okay! 😀